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Church Planter Wives: We’re Really in it Now

You've been dreaming about planting a church for a while. You've been through assessments, decided where to plant, maybe even moved to a new city. What happens next? What do you do after the boxes are unpacked and the dust has settled? While every church plant is...

Church Planter Wives & the Greatest Love Story

I adore the movie, The Princess Bride. One of the reasons I love this movie is because Westly will do anything to save his precious Princess Buttercup from the evil Prince Humperdinck. He adores her without fail. When he says, "As you wish," he's really saying, "I...

Are We Ready to Plant a Church?

Nobody is ever one hundred percent ready to plant a church. Planting a church is always a risk and always involves unknown factors. However, I’ve seen church planters who push too hard to make things happen. This is a problem because if you must push too hard, you may...

Church Planter’s Wives and Calling

Wouldn't it be nice if we had an intercom which connected us directly to the voice of God? He could beep in and say, "Hey, I've got a job for you." You'd never have to question what you were supposed to do. You'd never second guess your role or calling ever again. You...

Church Planter Wives and the Full Armor of God

The world has become a place filled with gray spaces. It doesn't take much to be swayed to other people's opinions. In school, we are taught this is a good thing. Empathize. Consider other perspectives. Open your mind and your heart. Please, go ahead and  follow your...

I am a church planter’s wife. Do you know me?

I wonder what other church planter's wives across the globe are like? I am sure they are a lot like me and the church planter's wives I have already met. Sometimes silly, skilled in several areas, dedicated to the church and to their husbands. No matter what church...

Church Planter Wives and Schedules

This is the time of year I begin to think about schedules. Unfortunately, so does everyone else! This means we're all jumping at the bit to get our important events noticed--sports, school, church, and other activities. I don't mean to sound as if I don't like having...

Church Planter Wives in Hiding

Dear Church Planter Wife, Are you in hiding? Are you shutting out part of the world in order to survive? Have you been coasting along  --so busy caring for others-- in power-on-mode for so long you forgot what it was like to have deep conversations or real...

Church Planter Wife: You Don’t Have to Save the World

I had an important realization. I am not responsible for saving the world. Um, yeah, of course not...that's Jesus' job...why did you think that? I guess I got carried away. Or I got worried. Crazy things have been happening in the news that make me think the...

The Perks of Being a Church Planter’s Wife

There are many blessings in the lives of church planters' wives! No matter what stage of church planting you are in, it is good to focus on the positive aspects of this unique position. What are the perks of being a church planter's wife? You get to have adventures....

Church Planter Wives & In-between Times

The in-between times. You've probably been there. Maybe you're there right now. Hanging in the murky space between leaving a ministry and either starting, helping start, or joining a new one. It can be tough. It can also be incredible. What's the difference? The...

When Church Planter Wives Experience Loss

There are many things to lose in church planting. Church planting is dependent on factors out of our control--benefactors, organizations who rely on funding from others, fallible plans and projections, human errors and conflicts. That being said, God is in control....

The Benefits of Participating in Community Events

In church planting, everything is new. This can be exciting and wonderful! However, building systems and traditions from scratch can be exhausting, and I can't help but wonder whether or not we ought to be accessing more of the existing resources within our own...

A New Church Plant and a New Community Tradition

It was evening on December 23rd, and my family and I were decked out in our ugliest Christmas sweaters. We were headed to downtown Long Beach where we were promised a great time by New Wine Community Church. We couldn't wait to see what kind of a party this popular...

New Year’s Resolutions and Jesus

Happy New Year! It's so great to be back on schedule after a holiday break. Somehow, when the new year starts, I feel a sense of renewal and motivation. Do you? I have been thinking about New Year's resolutions. Given the way the world embraces this opportunity to...

The Warmth of the Christmas Season

Merry Christmas! What warms your heart during the holiday season? Hot cider? Cinnamon rolls? The lights on the Christmas trees? The faces of children? One of my favorite parts of Christmas is seeing the lights on houses. My girls and I began a tradition of driving...

Do Not Fear

It's December! I love December for all the wonder it brings, from the scent of pine and apple cider, to the twinkling lights on houses reminding us of our precious Savior and His birth. December is the time of year when we dwell on Jesus' birth. Today I am struck by...

What does Planting Churches as a Team Mean for Wives?

God never intended for us to start churches in isolation. While God prepares us and uses us as individuals, the church doesn't begin to take root until we are working with a team. Individuals do God's work today, and have done His work in history. In Acts chapter 8,...

Why Church Planter’s Wives Should Tell their Stories

Why Church Planter’s Wives Should Tell their Stories Do you have any stories to tell about how God has worked in your life, or in the life of your church? I am certain you do! It’s difficult to get to the point of planting a church without a lot of stories happening...

Exponential Church Planting Conference

SPARK was the theme of Exponential 2015, where a gathering of thousands of church planters met in Los Angeles, California to learn and grow.  SPARK... Inspired by these words, Paul wrote to Timothy: “For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God which...

How do Church Planter Wives Start Over?

You're stepping out in faith.   You and your husband have prayed about it, raised some funds, joined a network or two, and determined God has placed a call on your life to start a new church in an area where you have never lived before.   You've left...

Church Planter Wife, Lighten Your Load

Your load is heavy. You didn't mean to say, "Yes," to too many things, but somehow you have managed to compile a list of ministry to-dos that resembles your grocery list at Thanksgiving time. Each item on the list is critical and irreplaceable. It's wonderful to be...

Church Planter Wife: Saying, “No,” Can Give you Wings

"No." Few people like to say the word. For some reason, especially in the setting of church planting, saying, "No," can feel like the wrong thing to do. It can feel like a curse word, even. After all, there is a lot to be done. Here is a partial list of all the things...

When Church Planter Wives Turn to Jesus, First

Turn to Jesus first. This is Christianity 101. It's very easy to talk about putting Jesus first, but when we get distracted by insurmountable problems, we often turn to the people in our lives to get un-stuck. There is a time and place for turning to people. In fact,...

Find “Your Person”

Photo Courtesy of David at outerwoodsmedia.com I have an embarrassing confession. I watch Gray’s Anatomy. I don’t tend to share this information because it’s easy to judge someone for the television shows they pick, and Gray’s Anatomy might as well be a soap opera....

Get Connected. . . You’ll be glad you did!

I knew everything was about to change, and there was nobody I could tell. I may have been surrounded by hundreds of people I did life with…Bible studies, baby showers, weddings and community events… but I had never felt so alone. I’ve told this story before, but I...

Church Planting: The Joy of Miracles

Photo courtesy of Alan Jones In church planting, we are often priviledged to witness miracles in our own lives, and in the lives of the people we serve. This is my favorite part of church planting! My family has experienced quite a few things we consider miracles....

Church Planting: Blessed are the feet…

"And how are they to preach unless they are sent? As it is written, 'How beautiful are the feet of those who preach the good news!'" Romans 10:15 ESV Bible I think about this verse a lot. Maybe one reason this verse has always stuck out to me is because I love my...

Church Planting: When it’s time to say, “Goodbye.”

"Goodbye." In church planting, you have to say it once in awhile. There are not enough tissues, or in many church planter's cases, rolls of toilet paper since they may not afford boxes of tissues, for the tears we shed over leaving. The first thing you do before you...

Church Planting Year Two: What to expect

Two years into meeting as a new church, there are a few things you can expect. Hint - it has to do with tantrums. It seems silly to imagine members of a congregation throwing tantrums, but for some reason in our experience, the two-year mark is when people rise up out...

We Passed Our Assessment! Now What?

Congratulations! You and your husband were assessed to determine whether or not you are ready to plant a church, and you passed! This means based upon your history, personalities, faith and giftedness, you have been told it is right for you to take the leap and start...

Unmet Expectations

Photo Courtesy of Raquel Martinez Church plants are like apples. You think you can tell what they will taste like from looking at the outside. If the peel is a vibrant shade of red, yellow or green, you might think, it looks like a good apple. Give it a squeeze, and...

Betrayal and Forgiveness

"If I never call you again, it's because I'm busy." These were the words I received from a woman who had been my friend. They followed a difficult conversation where I was honest with her about how hurt I felt at something she did. I guess she couldn't handle my...

Solitude

 And he said to them, “Come away by yourselves to a desolate place and rest a while.” For many were coming and going, and they had no leisure even to eat. Mark 6:31 ESV I took the above photo when we camped at 9,000 feet on Mount San Jacinto. I'm not a true...

Help Your Husband Through Burnout

It’s true. I found my husband unconscious at the bottom of the stairs. Why, you ask? The answer is obvious, now, but at the time, it shocked me. I thought he’d fallen asleep since he’d been working so many hours to get our new church up and running. I’d be tired,...

They’ll Be Here in Five Minutes!

In church planting, there will be events in your home. Some women are comfortable with this, and others aren't. I know women in ministry who open up their homes to everybody – to people they know, people they don’t know, homeless people, dogs, crying babies, you name...

Do What You Love, and Ministry Will Follow

Do what you love. You might think this advice seems rather worldy. As Christians, we are used to serving where we are needed and giving of ourselves, even when we don't want to. However, I believe the most impactful ministry can flow out of the activities you already...

Something of My Own

Church planter's wives give up a lot. We leave friends, family, and jobs to go plant. Sometimes we live in less-than-ideal conditions to make the family budget work. Don’t get me wrong. I believe it's a priviledge to be a church planter's wife. There are times,...

When Planting Churches is a Financial Strain

Ministry can be a huge sacrifice – especially when it comes to paychecks, or the lack thereof. Our early church planting years were also our baby years. Baby churches and baby babies, for us, translated to baby paychecks. I cried out to God so many times, “Why is this...

A Supportive Wife

How can a wife be supportive when her husband plants a church? There is not a lot written about what it looks like to support your husband in ministry, especially if your husband is a church planter. What is the wife’s role in such a huge undertaking? I believe this...

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