Church planter’s wives give up a lot.

We leave friends, family, and jobs to go plant. Sometimes we live in less-than-ideal conditions to make the family budget work. Don’t get me wrong. I believe it’s a priviledge to be a church planter’s wife.

There are times, however, when we forget to take care of ourselves. We become frustrated, frazzled, and sometimes unhealthy in our service to everyone, except for ourselves. It’s at times like these when we need a friend to remind us to cater to our own spiritual and physical needs, too. Jesus, the perfect Lord of the universe, took time to be alone. How much more do we, imperfect humans, need to take time to recharge?

I realized this truth one day when my friend, and fellow pastor’s wife, gave me a present. The present was the mug you see in the picture. I treasure it because of what she said when she gave it to me. “You give up so much of yourself, I wanted you to have something of your own.”

How do you take care of yourself in the midst of your sacrifice for ministry? Here are some of the ways I’ve seen women care for themselves. As you read the list, think about your daily life. Do you fit any of these healthy habits into your ministry grind?

    • Maintain a hobby of your own outside of the church.
    • Take time for yourself, and by yourself, on a regular basis.
    • Feel all right about saying, “No,” when something doesn’t fit into your schedule.
    • Keep a friend outside of the church who will listen to you.
    • Find a fun way to be active and exercise.
    • Look for interesting foods, other than left over party foods or macaroni and cheese (if you have kids) that you can afford to make and will be healthy for your body.
    • Read the Bible for fun, even if it’s a little bit of scripture, to delight in God’s word on your own.
    • Ask your husband to do something for you.
    • Call out for help when you need it. Don’t be afraid to ask for prayer or physical help.

Don’t feel guilty when you take a moment to look inward to figure out why you’re feeling overwhelmed or down. It’s difficult to serve others when you’re suffering.

Finally, dear planter’s wife, remember that you are God’s treasure. He delights in you and says, “See her? She’s my treasure.”

“Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? And not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father. But even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.” Matthew 10: 29-31


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